Your Guide to Battling Bullying in Your Community

According to experts, nearly half of the kids in the United States have been bullied at some point by the time they graduate from high school. Bullying impacts everyone involved, including the instigators, victims, bystanders and schools. Bullying is not a new problem, but it is no longer being ignored. The suicides of victims and detrimental long-term psychological effects make it imperative that parents have a plan of action if their child is bullied.

What Is Bully Behavior?

A bully acts in a threatening manner, either physically or verbally, to gain power over the victim. The bully is someone who is stronger or more powerful in some way and repeatedly attacks to keep the victim in a state of fear.

These are the four types of bullying:

  • Verbal: Verbal bullying includes name calling, pointing and giggling, insulting and teasing.
  • Relationship: The bully engages the aid of others to exclude the victim in activities, spread lies and render the victim an outcast.
  • Physical: Physical bullying includes verbal threats of physical violence, hitting, pushing, kicking, tripping or any other act that causes physical harm. Destroying, hiding or stealing belongings and forcing victims to do things they don’t want to do are also forms of physical bullying.
  • Cyber or Online: Bullies use the Internet and social media to spread rumors, lies and embarrassing messages about victims.

`Why Does It Happen?

Bullies behave the way they do for a number of reasons. It can be a learned behavior from older siblings or even parents. A perceived or real lack of attention is sometimes to blame. Being seen as tough makes the bully feel popular and powerful. Bullying victims themselves often lash out at others in order to regain a sense of power. Research also indicates that, for some kids, watching violent movies and TV programs and playing violent video games increases the tendency to bully and use violence against others.

Who’s the Target?

Victims are sought out because they are different, alone or appear weak. Victims include kids who are big, small, thin, short, tall, minorities, loners, disabled…the list goes on. In fact, anyone can be a victim.

The Bully Effect

Kids who are victims are typically depressed and fearful. Victims often experience sleep and eating disorders and fall behind academically. In a few publicized cases, victims committed suicide or engaged in violent shooting behavior as retaliation.

There are long-term effects on the bully if the behavior is allowed to continue. Bullies are more likely to engage in violent acts, such as fighting and vandalism. Bullies tend to start abusing drugs and alcohol during adolescence, addictions which continue into adulthood. They are also more likely to become violent toward their spouses and children.

Steps for Victims

Kids who are being bullied have options. Here are some tips that can help:

  • Avoidance: Avoiding the bully keeps victims safe.
  • Stay Calm: Bullies enjoy the reaction they get from victims. Walking away and staying calm is not the reaction the bully expects.
  • Stay in Groups: Bullies are less likely to confront someone who is with a group of friends. There is safety in numbers.
  • Tell an Adult: Telling a teacher, counselor or parent is the best option for a severe case of bullying.

Parents and Schools

Parents and schools can work together to stop bullying and victimization. Most schools have a plan in place to deal with bullies. Intervention is not only important for the victim, but for the bully. If caught early enough, a kid with violent tendencies can be treated.

The Aftermath

Victims often blame themselves and suffer long after the attacks stop. Kids who suffered severe bullying need time to recover after the problem has been resolved. Kids need to have time to focus on themselves, eating right, sleeping and exercising to regain their health. A great way to start the recovery process is by reaching out to other victims, perhaps befriending those who are frequent targets. Participating in school programs about bullying and how to stop it is another way to turn the feeling of being a helpless victim into a positive. Volunteering at the local animal shelter or nonprofit organization can help victims put their problems into perspective. If months pass and symptoms are severe, seeing a therapist is recommend to help victims work through the trauma and move on.

How to Choose a Career That Makes a Difference

For many recent college graduates, finding a fulfilling job that pays the bills isn’t enough. They want a career that also makes a difference in the world. If you are looking for a first job or making a career change, there are lots of meaningful job possibilities. It doesn’t matter if your degree is Global Studies or Mathematics, you can find a job that makes the world a better place.

Highest Paying, Highest Satisfaction Careers

Payscale, a Seattle, Washington, company that collects employment data, conducted a survey from July 2012 to July 2013. The survey measured both job satisfaction and salaries. Using the compiled data, Payscale published a “25 Most Meaningful Jobs That Pay Well” list in August of 2013. Not surprisingly, individuals in the healthcare industry scored highest on both job satisfaction and pay scale. The most meaningful and highest paid job was the neurosurgeon. Cardiothoracic surgeon and anesthesiologist ranked second and third respectively. Health care workers at all pay levels expressed extreme satisfaction and said their work was very meaningful. Other highest paid, highest meaningful professions on the list  included veterinarian, certified nurse midwife, deputy fire chief and speech-language pathologist.

There were some surprises in the survey results. Number seven on the list was CEO. Most executive jobs ranked low on the meaningful scale, but 82 percent of the CEOs surveyed said their job makes the world a better place. In a couple of other surprises, restaurant owners came in at number 20 and realtors at 21.

Meaningful Jobs, But Less Pay

Teaching is one of the most satisfying jobs, but is not a career known for its high salaries. The median salary for teachers in public schools in the United States is $42,900. Most teachers believe their jobs are highly meaningful and that making a difference is more important than money. Preschool and child care administrators earn less than teachers, with a median salary of $32,400,  but score 89 percent on the meaningful job scale. It’s obvious that people who work with children do so because it’s meaningful and not for the monetary rewards.

Social workers, particularly those in the mental health and substance abuse fields, find their jobs meaningful. Social workers are highly educated, most with secondary degrees, but only have a median salary of $41,200. Many people go into the field, however, because they feel they make a difference.

The median pay of firefighters is only $43,500, but their overall meaningful job score sits at 93 percent. Clearly, fighting fires to save the lives of people and animals brings a feeling of personal fulfillment that outweighs the risks and the low pay.

Jobs With Varying Pay, But Lots of Rewards

Postsecondary teachers instruct students in a variety of academic and vocational subjects. Teaching at a research university typically requires a PhD, but many technical and vocational schools merely require expertise, along with state certifications, if applicable. Teaching is one of the most satisfying career choices, whether the students are children or adults.

If there is a cause near and dear to your heart, consider becoming an activist advocate. Many political and charitable organizations hire activists to work socially, environmentally or politically for their stated cause. Similarly, congressional aides work for a specific legislator at the federal or state level. The job typically requires a Bachelor’s Degree in Political Science, but requirements vary.

Find Real Meaning With a Non-Profit Organization

The job opportunities in the nonprofit sector are wide and varied. A faster growing sector than the utilities, construction, and entertainment sectors combined, nonprofits currently employ over 14 million people in the United States. Nonprofit organizations include community development organizations, schools, research centers, community groups, social advocacy, hospitals, human services, churches and religious institutions.

Nonprofits require many of the same staffing skillsets as businesses and employ professionals with a variety of skills, talents and educational backgrounds. Jobs are available in the human resource, accounting, legal, managerial, research and evaluation, information technology, writing, marketing, graphic design, social work, communications, public relations, public policy and lobbying divisions.

A job in the nonprofit sector does not necessarily mean little pay and no benefits. In fact, a recent survey done in the Milwaukee area found that nonprofit salaries were comparable, and sometimes higher, than the average salary in other city sectors. Many nonprofits offer competitive benefits as well. Nonprofit employees express high job satisfaction and feel a sense of pride about where they work.

6 Kids Who Are Changing the World

Learning a second language and exploring different cultures are great tools for teaching children to think beyond themselves and think about the lives of others. Such awareness fosters a feeling of kinship and caring that often leads to the desire to make a difference. In fact, thousands of kids across the United States are doing just that within their homes, their local communities and on a global scale.

Real Kids Make a Real Difference

Brazienna Hook and Haley VanScoyoc live in Pinellas, Florida. The two friends collect blankets and socks for the homeless. When temperatures start falling, as they do sometimes even in Florida, they load a parent’s car up and hand deliver one blanket and one pair of socks to the homeless people in the community. The girls spend their own money to purchase supplies when donations aren’t enough. They do it because it, in their words, “warms” their hearts.

After a 2013 typhoon devastated the Philippines, Audrey Wood of Providence, Utah, came up with a tasty fundraising idea. Audrey and her mom baked cinnamon rolls over the long Thanksgiving weekend and sold them to neighbors and friends. A donor agreed to match the funds Audrey raised, which turned her initial collection of $320 into $640. Audrey plans to turn her fundraiser into an annual event.

Erin Manuel of North Carolina was seven years old when an earthquake hit Haiti. She donated her life savings of $3.08 to Partners in Health (PIH), a global nonprofit health organization that was on the ground in Haiti, and then held a bake sale to raise more money. Erin was moved by the extreme poverty in Haiti and wanted to do more. When she was 9 years old, she began selling greeting cards and bookmarks made from her own artwork. She also began playing her violin during farmers market season for tips, all for the cause. Four years later, Erin has raised over $8,000 for PIH. She says, “No child should have to grow up in poverty.”

Already involved in volunteer work at eight years of age, Martand Bhagavatula played his violin for patients in the local hospital’s pediatric ward. He noticed that the kids didn’t have any toys or “fun things” in their rooms. To remedy the situation, he founded an organization called Kids and Smiles. Initially founded to collect toys for pediatric patients, Kids and Smiles now has an expanded role of encouraging other kids to get involved. The organization holds several themed events throughout the year that the youth volunteers organize. They then hand deliver toys to local hospitals.

Parker Willman of Kenton, Kentucky, loves animals. He wanted to do volunteer work at the local animal shelter, but was too young to be accepted. Instead, he started Parker’s Pet Project when he was six years old. He collects pet supplies, food and toys and donates them to the shelter. To date, he has donated several car loads full of donations as well as hundreds of dollars.

Zach Affolter made headlines when he campaigned to have his San Diego’s high school functions removed from SeaWorld because of its unethical treatment of marine animals, particularly cetaceans. A vegetarian and animal activist, Zach is writing two books to spread the word about his cause.

Making a Difference at Home

Making a difference starts at home. One of the simplest ways to encourage social responsibility is by employing an energy and environment saving way of life. Children of all ages can actively participate and learn about how their actions impact the world around them.

Here are some simple and fun activities to get kids started :

Turn off the lights: The simple act of turning the lights off when you leave a room and unplugging small appliances saves energy throughout the day.
Save water: Don’t let water run when brushing teeth. Use the water only as needed. This simple act saves as much as 25 gallons of water a month.
Plant something: Plants and trees absorb carbon dioxide and naturally clean the air. A family garden also provides fresh vegetables and, as an added benefit, is a perfect family activity.
Recycle: Most communities offer recycling services of some kind. Recyclables include magazines, newspapers, glass and, most importantly, plastic.
Reduce heat: Layering clothes and lowering the thermostat drastically reduces a family’s energy use.
Compost: Composting returns nutrients to the ground and is ideal for fertilizing gardens.

Little Sponges: Why You Should Get Your Youngster Into a Foreign Language

Foreign language programs are typically one of the first items on the chopping block when schools are hit with budget cuts. Unfortunately, cutting language programs severely compromises the skills and thinking abilities of children. In today’s global society, students can expect to work and interact with people of different cultures throughout the rest of their lives. Research shows that learning a second language as early as the elementary school level enhances cognitive problem solving, increases creativity and, surprisingly, improves math scores on standardized tests.

Does Tutoring Little Kids Really Make a Difference?

Children in the first to third grade group have variable reading and writing skills. Developing a strategy to improve reading skills, promote comprehension and build confidence motivates children to read, write and enjoy learning. Doing sports and coaching children can also play a big role in building confidence skills in this critical language arts building period.

Reading with children is an ideal way to promote reading skills and comprehension. Encourage children to work out unfamiliar words on their own. Employing strategies such as reading the next sentence to understand meaning and sounding out parts of the word enhance comprehension.

Megan Carloto: New Career Goals of Millennial Grads

Megan Carloto recently earned a bachelor’s degree from the University of California, Santa Barbara (UCSB). A gifted student, Megan’s philosophy is to strive for excellence in everything she does, whether it’s studying, exercising or working as a volunteer.

Elementary, Middle and High School Sports Activities

Megan began playing tennis when she was three years old. She played doubles in her high school sophomore and senior years when the New Providence Girls Varsity tennis team won the Group 1 State Championships two years in a row. Megan also played soccer until eighth grade, when she decided to dedicate more time to tennis. Megan devoted much of her time to swimming. A swimmer from age seven on, she swam for the Summit YMCA Seals when she was nine until she was 16. During her junior year in high school, Megan swam for the Somerset Hills YMCA. Her team went to the national championships in Charlotte, North Carolina, multiple times. Megan also swam for her high school swim team. She won Most Improved and Most Valuable Player for both tennis and swimming in high school. Although she doesn’t participate in organized athletics activities now, Megan still enjoys daily exercise.

Exploring the World of Music

Megan enjoys listening to music, discovering new artists and exploring different musical styles. A favorite pastime is attending concerts and musical festivals with friends. Megan’s interest in other cultures includes learning about the music of people around the globe. She believes that a region’s music is a window into its culture.

One of Megan’s favorite artists is Lana Del Rey. Del Rey released her first digital album, “Lana Del Ray,” in 2010, but it wasn’t until her second studio album, “Born to Die,” was released that she gained notoriety. The album, released with a last name spelling change, debuted at number two on Billboard’s 200 and was the fifth overall best-selling album in 2012. Her work has won numerous awards, including the Woman of the Year award from GQ. She was nominated for several Grammy awards in 2013.

Working to Help Others

Now that she has graduated from college, Megan is looking forward to working or volunteering for causes she cares about. Before college, she worked with a charitable organization to build homes for impoverished families. Her busy class and work schedule prevented her from volunteering during college, but Megan is now actively searching for ways to help those in need and support the causes she cares about, either through volunteer activity or as a career.

Megan is looking at several possibilities when it comes to working to improve the lives of those around her. She loves helping animals, so working with shelter animals or animal rescue organizations as a volunteer or profession is a possibility. Helping children is another avenue she is currently exploring. She tutored elementary school children in reading and math in college, worked in childcare since middle school and has always felt compassion for kids, particularly those who are disadvantaged in some way. Another possibility is the involvement in an environmental organization. Megan is very concerned about the impact humans have on the earth’s natural resources and wildlife. A job or volunteer opportunity with a conservation or ecological organization, that works to lessen the impact, would be ideal.

Megan is multilingual and has traveled abroad extensively. She studied in Spain for a semester and lived with a local family, learning as much as she could about the local culture and its people. Megan also spent time as a lifeguard and is currently a retail associate and barista. Megan enjoys working with and getting to know people from all types of cultural and economic backgrounds.

Megan Carloto approaches whatever she does with enthusiasm and determination. She enjoys taking on challenges, solving problems and acquiring knowledge, whether it’s learning about different cultures or exploring new types of music. Megan enjoys the world’s diversity and welcomes the opportunity to understand and learn from others. She looks forward to a rewarding career and improving the lives of others.